Conflict avoiders annoy me. You know who they are. They might even include yourself. They leave the tiny drip of milk in the fridge. They leave the dregs of dry cereal to sit for time eternal. They forget about the leftovers until a fine mold develops. And they also leave dirty dishes around the house.
These might not appear to be anything conflict worthy. They are small, but left unfettered small things do escalate and can cause headaches. So what are your choices?
- If its yourself, then change your habits before they are found out. Not pleasant but hey it needs to be done.
- You can always overlook these fopaughs of others. It could develop character but it also lets the culprit go free. This is fine perhaps for short term but I think it could lead to a breaking point. Sloth, irresponsibility and laziness are not particular traits worth supporting through a lifetime
- Confrontation. That's right. Take the bull by the horns. Say it as it is. Hopefully peace can be made and the conflict overcome. However it is possible that it could result in escalation and more conflicts get released. Perhaps, then I'd got to a higher authority or mediator.
As an added bonus, today I include a link with information on how to unclog an ultimate conflict avoidance- the clogged drain.